Nothing like a trip to the river to really put your mind at ease.
It’s been a week since I’ve returned from my trip from Arizona, and since that time, I’ve managed to keep the resolves I’d written down into an active practice. Things that I’d been putting off (taking items to Goodwill, enhancing my emotional, physical, and mental lifestyles – that sort of thing) are now forerunners on my list of things to do, no questions asked.
Now, as I sit on a park bench and watch kayakers skate the surface while joggers cool down and spit into the dirt behind me, I can understand how easy it is to lose focus of what we mean to do. It’s not that we become bad people if we don’t get something done. We just get busy or distracted or just plain confused by that which is the world.
There are many activities that I’m involved in that give me great joy when I reach them. When I write at least one full page in one of my prospective stories, I feel calm and relaxed for the rest of the day. When I can slide into a split without screaming inside or lift my knees higher as I jump, I get an endorphin high. When I finish my morning meditation, all of my problems wash away. When I post a blog article, I sigh and lean back, satiated at my distribution to the feast that is online knowledge.
But if it ain’t a B just to get to that point.
I’m sure I’ve said this before on this blog, but dagnabbit, I’ll say it again: Everyone should be doing at least one thing that they want to do. Even if it’s something small, take the time to do it. Even if it takes an extra effort, just keep in mind that the people who have or can do whatever it is you want to achieve, it was not easy for them. If they say that it was, they’re lying through their teeth.
The best things in life are hard. If they weren’t, would we get the same satisfaction from doing them?
Think of the stereotypical rich child who shouldn’t have a care in the world – the stereotypical kid who had the money to order his governess around and buy his “friends” any toy or island they’d want. What happens when he wants a meaningful relationship with the person who can’t be bought, who would rather have a quiet moment discussing the future of space travel? That rich kid will have to hunker down and learn – gasp – social skills, patience, and a heck of a lot about astronomy.
Okay, he won’t have to learn astronomy, but you get me.It’s hard for some people to take time out for themselves, to make themselves a priority. Unfortunately, I know that lesson firsthand. Too often have I had friends and family members invite me to some party or big event, and then immediately cajole me with, “It’s okay to say ‘no!’” when they see me mentally struggle with personal plans I’ve already set up for myself.
For those of you who are people pleasers or are working super hard for your next paychecks, please remember to take a moment for yourselves. Whether you’re a parent, a child, a spouse, a mentor, student, a workaholic – it doesn’t matter.
You deserve to have a quiet, calm, happy mind. Find out what makes you happy and, flabjabbit, do it at least 14 times a week. Minimum.
Then rinse and repeat.
It really is a beautiful day at the river.